We arrived in Vientiane August 1968. I was 5 years old.
For 6 weeks, we stayed at the Lanxang Hotel, while our house on Rue Tha Deua was being prepared for us to live in. During that time, my Dad started his job at the British Embassy, where he was the commercial attaché.
Shortly after arriving, I sent a postcard to my beloved grandmother.
My brother and I attended the International School, led by John and Valerie McLean (who currently live near us in Manchester). I missed my grandmother terribly and I struggled in the heat, but I had a lovely, eclectic group of friends from Germany, Korea, the U.S., UK, Thailand, and of course, Laos. I remember my Lao friend Boun, with his crazy hyperactivity, exuberance, and affectionate madness. There was also a beautiful Thai girl to protect me when Boun was going full swing.
The war was never far away. Mum and Dad trained us and drilled us on hitting the deck if the car came under fire enroute to Luang Prabang. Sometimes, the Royal Lao Army troops guarded our school gates. Etched permanently in my mind are visions of children my own age, begging in the market place, with limbs lost to stray ordnance.
My turn came when I mistimed my run across the road and was flattened by a U.S. army jeep. I must be one of the few people alive bearing the tire print of an American Army vehicle at precisely the same time that Henry Kissinger was assuring the American people that their troops were not in Laos. I feel terribly sorry for the American boy in my class whose father was shot down over Pathet Lao territory.
To this day I cannot understand the lies that were told.
Picture of me after being run over by a US Army jeep the world was assured was, “not there” in Laos.
I was too young to understand what my Dad did for a living; but it was terribly exciting when foreign diplomats were summoned to meet the king, or attend a Royal ceremony. Dad was required to dress formally and wear his medals and carry a sword. I was beside myself when this picture was taken.
We left Vientiane during the floods of 1971, by canoe across the Mekong, down the high street in Nong Khai, straight out the other side and half way to Udon Thani before the waters receded and we could get in a car.
It was hard settling back in the UK that winter. My mum became ill in Doha on the way home and was at the hospital, my brother was away at school, and Dad was trekking in the Himalayas. I was being teased at school because nobody had heard of Laos and they thought I had invented an imaginary country. Even the teachers! But at least I was back with my lovely grandmother.
I never forgot my time in Laos, though. It is as much a part of me as an English Breakfast or tea at 4 o’clock. I fell in love with Laos again in 1997 the last time I visited, and I look forward to taking my daughter to see where I grew up.
Thank you for your great work in telling the story of the Lao diaspora, and helping me to reconnect with a childhood that few of my British friends can comprehend.
–Andy Wallace
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You are probably my age Sir I am a born Laotian from Vientiane . Growing up during civil war . Life was fun and rough at time. My dad was a royalist colonel, he dressed in full uniform with a sword during the military parade honored the King of Laos. I always on my dad side many times. Life is dead in Laos for me and to many diasporas, when Laos fell to the communist. Now I live in USA having a new life without oppression.
We must be a similar age. I don’t remember hearing the name Sayaphoum, but we attended some social events organised by the military. I do remember Colonel/General(?) Sananikorn and his French wife. They hosted a party on an island in the Mekong during the dry season, with sunshade made from parachutes. I wonder if you were there??
Thanks again for sharing your story with us, Andy! The writing was lovely and your memories and that postcard? Amazing. I’ll have to inquire about the party you mention above, with my parents. That last name is my mom’s side of the family. –Sai
Yes please do ask! My Mum and Dad stayed in touch with members of the Lao community and also some ex Diplomatic and Voluntary Service workers for years after we left Laos in 1971, but mostly in the UK and in France.
Happy New Year
Hello again,
I have just found some small prints by Bounxou Sananikone in my Dad’s flat, dating back to the 1960s. Would that be a relative of yours?
Kind regards
Andy
I was 5 when we lived in Vientiane. My dad was US Army but dressed as a civilian and my mother was ‘social secretary’s to the ambassador. In reality she did admin housekeeping for the CIA. You are lucky, we had to go to a French school without benefit of any language training so we rarely went to school. Our cook taught me in the kitchen with the books Sent to us yearly. She was a Chinese lady in her 80’s who smoked marijuana, popped rinsing and had young men in at night regularly according to my mom. She was a superb cook and I adored her. We lived in a housing are called ’13 houses’. The family across the street managed the commissary. We were awakened one night and hustled out by soldiers. We hadn’t seen our folks in several days but Chin was with us so we felt safe. We finally met up with our mom and hustled on a private plane. The ambassadors wife was brought on and complained about sharing the plain and we were moved to a troop transport and strapped in on the floor and evacuated to Bangkok as the communist insurgents moved in. Many happy memories there including lots of parties where I would steal the olives out of the guest martinis.
Wow, amazing story! I remember the cargo nets on the floor of those old DC3s though. Almost laughing out loud at the thought of them being used to keep diplomatic kids from being bounced around on the flight down to Bangkok. There was one boy in my class at the international school whose Dad was plain clothes US Military. His dad was a pilot & did not come back after one of his missions. It was really hard to know what to say to him after that. obviously I had no idea what he did, though I recently visited the ‘war remnants’ museum in Ho Chi Minh city so I could probably take an educated guess. It sounds like you were there til 1975 by the sound of your sudden departure. We were in Singapore by then and had a house full of refugees from Saigon, Phnom Penh and Darwin, which wasn’t anything to do with the war but had just had a catastrophic typhoon. I was left with a life long love of Laos, its people and its culture. Thanks for sharing
Hi Andy Wallace,
I just happened on this site and read your note about finding small prints (etchings?) by my mother, Bounsou Sananikone. Would love to know if you still have them. We have a lot of her paintings but of course I’m always curious to see what else she painted in those days. (Sadly our mom passed away in 2014).
Thank you,
Ousa